All personal development efforts fail because we want too much too fast. Now even instant gratification seems sort of being delayed. We want everything right now, right here and let me mention that it cannot be a tiny desire, it must be prodigious.
But, hello, are we listening?
I am really screaming from the top of my lungs! Am I audible?
I assume whatever I am saying here is reaching your ears (including mine ;-))
Here’s the deal.
All big attempts fail because they carry less promise of repetition. If you don’t repeat what you do one day, you can’t grow. For anything that you want to develop, choose a little each day so that it is possible for you to continue next day and next month and next year.
Have a long term perspective. It is powerful. Most people over-estimate what they can do in a day and under-estimate what they can accomplish in a year.
As an example, if you start doing exercise, don’t try to do one hour each day in the beginning. Rather try easy, super-easy. Do 5 minutes. And increase gradually. If you follow this process you cannot imagine how much you can achieve in a year. I did. And I keep repeating the same process in other areas. And guess what, it works better than other tried and tested methods.
To summarize –
1. When you start something, start super small.
2. Don’t try to achieve everything in a day or a week or a month.
3. Give your practice a long term perspective.
4. Build patience and abstain yourself from doing more than what you have chosen for yourself in the beginning even if you can do more.
5. Gradually increase the amount of time and effort.
6. Keep repeating.
What are you going to start now then?
Are you listening?